One can give comforts to our body by draping us in beautiful attires, or by anointing us with sandal and perfumes, or by decorating us with ornaments, or by giving a soothing massage. So also, one may inflict pain on our body by hitting or attacking us with sharp weapons.
One may help us to harmonize our breath, or may cause it to stop by troubling us.
One may give happiness to the mind by speaking kind words or acting benevolently. On the other hand, the mind can be troubled by one's harsh words and deeds.
Our intellect too, can be enhanced by kindling it in the right direction or can be led astray into confusions by wrong guidance.
But, the Self alone always stands above all these dualities.
None can make the Self happy or sorrowful.