In order to carry out any activity – spiritual or otherwise, peace is a must. Only if there is a mutual understanding and adjustment will peace prevail in the family. Hence it is important.
According to me, it is okay.
Your husband will start loving you when you love him without expecting his love.
Yes, if the wife wishes so.
In any relationship, you give, before you expect others to give you. Similarly, when it comes to love, you show your love before you expect to be loved.

As long as marriage is considered as a divine bonding, it is blissful and the life is charming. As soon as we think that of marriage as a mere social binding governed by law, it loses it charm and becomes dry and listless.

The best way to ensure that the marriage continues to be a divine bonding for ever, is to pray to the Supreme Lord, Sri Krishna. He is an embodiment of divine love and nothing but pure love and love alone. He will shape your life in a way that would bring mutual understanding and love in your family life.

The easiest way to pray to him is to chant the Maha Mantra. Continue to chant the Maha Mantra with unflinching faith and devotion.